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Start of my adolescence
I believe I started my adolescence when my puberty started. My hormones were taking over and I was hot and cold with my emotions. This is related to stress and storm due to my hot temper. I also started rebellious behavior. I thought I was right even when my mother told me I wasn't. -
7.3 Intrinsic motivation
I made a choice to transfer to a public school close to my Deaf school part time because I wanted to challenge myself. I felt like I was not reaching my full potential and it bothered me. This was purely done to see how well I would do in a more challenging environment. I learned a lot more and was grateful that I pushed myself and for those who also pushed me. I was determine to do well to promote a better future for myself. -
8.1 rite of passage
As a Puerto Rican, we have a celebration for girls that become women at the age of 15.This celebration is called quinceañera. The most important act is the shoe change. The girl will come in with flats and have a whole dance before they sit down and change their flats to heels to indicate that they are now a woman. I was a very shy girl so when my mother asked me if I wanted one, I told her no and I never had that experience for myself. I realized that this was something huge I missed out on. -
Late Maturer
I was most the latest to mature out of all my friends. I was the last one to develop breasts, I was the last one to get my period, I was just last in everything. This does not only apply to the physical changes, but also to my behavior. I was not boy crazy like most of my friends. I was the one who did not care and rather focus on other things. If I matured early, I probably would have been in a lot of trouble trying to act like a grown up like my friends who always thought they were right. -
4.1 Gender-typed behavior
A lot of the times, boys at my school were not interested in relationships as much as the girls were. I remember being interested in a boy once (not as much as the other girls) and I tried talking to him. He found it funny and didn't want anything. He was more interested in playing sports and games than being in a relationship. -
6.3 companionship
For adolescents, companionship could range from just spending time together watching TV to going out on road trips together. I had a friend I did everything with. We played the same sports, joined the same clubs, and almost had sleepovers every weekend together for one year. Sadly she was an Russian exchange student and had to go back to her country at the end of the year. It felt good to have someone who shared the same interests in life and had very similar goals. -
Niche-picking
When I was a teenager I never really went out my way to find a crowd. I went to a deaf school that had about 5 students in each grade. It pretty much felt like a small family. The only time I went out my way was when I wanted to play Lacrosse and that was the best decision I ever made but I still felt left out in a hearing team. I guess the deaf school was the niche I picked for myself since I was comfortable there with all my deaf friends. -
3.2 Possible selves
So today I went to physical therapy for the first time after my ACL surgery. before today I had no idea what I wanted to do with myself but now I do! I want to become a physical therapist because it seems so chilled! Their job is so easy and they play games in the office! I am going to make sure I go to college and study to be a physical therapist. -
3.3 Social comparison
Kayla got new shoes today but they are so ugly! I like my new shoes. Look at them! I bet you're jealous! A lot of people want to have what I have but they can't. They aren't cool enough for it. -
4.2 Non-gender typed behavior
Growing up as a girl, I was expected to be quiet and obedient. Turns out, at first, I was not this girl society wanted. I was the only girl. All of my cousin are boys and they played rough all the time. I used to wrestle with them and hop over fences when we played outside. Then as I got older, I started to noticed a change in my behavior. I became more interested in rapport talk and in a sense, more 'girly '. My friend group slowly became more girls than boys as well. -
3.1 Personal Fable
I was with a boy at 16 years old. I thought I was in love and with the love of my life. When I found out he was just playing around and also talking to other girls, I thought it was the end of the world. My mother tried to calm me down by talking to me and telling me that it will be alright. I did not thinks she understood me at all and I ended up hating her for not trying to understand my pain. My formal thought that she was making my pain seem like no big deal. -
6.1- parent adolescent conflict
I was going through the phase of wanting what everyone else had. For instance, trendy clothes, games, money to spend, and go out to the movies.My mother on the other hand, did not have a lot of money for me to spend. to me it was unfair that I couldn't go out. I was extremely egocentric and did not think of others. my mother thought I was over reacting and just being a teenager. This is an example of parent and teenager not understanding each other due to a generation gap. -
7.1 transition from high school to College
This was a scary time for me since no one in my family ever went to college. I was in this on my own. I had to create my own path and find my own way. The anxiety of that plus the typical anxiety for all college students was taking a toll on me. It took me awhile to finally adjust to my surroundings. The dynamics changed as well. I was just a senior in high school where everyone looked up to me (especially in my deaf school) to being the youngest group in college. -
6.2- Ego support
I had a friend who I still talk to to this day. She was the kind of friend that I loved to help. She often time thought that she was not good enough or not smart. I did not see her in that light because she clearly was a wonderful person and a smart individual, her english was just a little bit bad. I would talk to her to make her feel better by pointing out all the good things and say one flaw cannot take all of that down. -
7.2 transition to work
I am now a college senior and I am back in my top dog position, but I realize that will not last long. I am now experiencing the anxiety of not knowing what is next. I am having some avoidant behavior that is not helping. There is also the stress of having to pay off loans. My whole surrounding is about to change (Social, Work, no more school). Life as I know it will be different. It is scary but mostly exciting to see what the future will bring me. -
emerging adulthood
I am still in the emerging adulthood stage of my life. I do not know enough to officially say I am an independent adult. Such as what to do with my taxes, pay for certain bills, cook for myself (not just sandwiches). I still rely on my mother for a lot of things. I think I will be come an adult once I graduate and live on my own. That situation will force me to learn how to do things on my own.