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7.3 Intrinsic Motivation
I'd mostly consider myself an extrinsic motivator because I like to indulge the rewarding feeling after the completion of the assignment or project. Yet, there was this one time where I truly wanted to improve my reading skill. I was involved in the Battle of Books competition and knowing how my 'B' team will mostly rely on me because I'm 'A' level material (I was supposed to be on A team), I had to step up. I ended up drowning myself in one of the assigned books and felt proud of myself. -
2.1 Early Maturer
My friends made apparent comments about how I matured quick physically. Even though I felt internally ashamed, my friends perceived it as a positive thing which justifies the information in page 56. I end up to be one of first to start dating and to be exposed to sex-related knowledge. So, I was also maturing emotionally as I had to face some distressing event(s) in life which comes down to the page 57 as it states that "early maturation increases girls' vulnerability to a number of problems". -
6.3 Intimacy
When I first found my crowd in high school, I started having that desire to spend more time and get to know them. According to the textbook, the definition of intimacy include self-disclosure, or sharing of private thoughts (Santrock, pg. 305). When I reached to that point where I felt comfortable sharing personal information with my peers, I knew it is because they were comfortable with sharing that level information with me too. That is a sense of intimacy I found excitement in embracing. -
2.2 Niche-picking
I relate to active (niche-picking) genotype-environment. I was an only child being raised by a single mother and for my extrovert personality, it was frustrating. So, deciding to reside at MSSD gave me the stimulating environment I needed to thrive. The students came all over from the world. I got to meet a lot of people who were like me -- outgoing, curious and amiable. In a short time, I grew like there's no tomorrow. MSSD environment was perfectly custom-designed for my interests/needs. -
4.1 Gender-typed behavior
While growing up, my grandma, a functioning perfectionist, would always compliment me whenever I presented myself and dressed in a feminine manner. Little did I realize that she was reinforcing me to follow the gender-typed behavior. From there, I felt like that was how I had to behave in order to be approved. Seeing how my female family members follow the norms of gender-typed behavior really did contribute to how I used to view myself and how I should achieve the similar behavior back then. -
7.1 Transition to High School
I remember the day well when I realized I'm entering the next chapter that leads to the real world. As expected, I was feeling anxious mostly due to how I'd have to face challenging academic courses and start my social status from the bottom. I heard stories about how freshmen would get dumped in dumpster on their first day and they were chosen by seniors. Yet, as I transitioned, I realized that my peers were on the same page and the rest of the year, we showered each other with support. -
1.1 Entering Adolescence
I believe that I first felt like I became an adolescent when my mom had me sent to MSSD, Model Secondary School for the Deaf, where it allows any nonresidential student to enroll. Being enrolled at 2nd semester of my freshman year had forced me to come out of my comfort zone especially when a lot of crowds are already established from the first semester. Not just that, it pushed me to embrace my own independence and responsibilities that every adult out there loves/dreads. -
3.2 Differentiation
It is safe to consider myself as a confident and creative individual. Yet, when I am feeling anxious in some specific situation that puts me in an uncomfortable position, my confidence and creativity just diminishes. I would feel like I lost a big part of myself when I am in an uncomfortable surrounding and I would not understand why. When the reality is that shows how powerful anxiety can be and it was the workings of anxiety that thrives to snatch my authentic self away. -
4.2 Non-gender typed behavior
My dear friend recognized that her sexual attraction is not limited to men. During that time, all of us were freshmen and the school, that we attend, did not exactly practice open-mindedness. Our friend was afraid to come out of the closet considering how she comes from a prominent, reputable family and we said we'd support her. So, she opened up and it came as a shock. What turns out to be beautiful that it leads to some women opening up about their sexuality after my friend's confession. -
3.1 Imaginary Audience
Imaginary audience is a familiar friend I used to lean on. So, imaginary audience could be a positive or negative thing. For instance, when I was constantly pulling my spandex down during the volleyball game and I felt like everyone was noticing how nervous I am. Actually, everyone was focusing on the game. There were times where I felt like that everyone is watching my every move and if I presented myself perfectly, I'd allow that to boost my self-esteem. If not, my self-esteem would go down. -
1.2 Emerging Adulthood
The day I got arrested by polices for smoking marijuana outside of mall formed my sense of adulthood. I was only seventeen yet I had the gut to carry a bag of weed. Naturally, I was peer pressured by friends and gave in to the pressure to smoke right away. In a sudden, the polices came by so quickly to just take my weed stuffs away and to handcuff us. It appalled me how my life can be taken away in a moment if I don't follow the law. I was very lucky to be considered as a minor at that time. -
3.3 Social Comparison
As I mentioned about my anxiety, it was a tendency for me to wonder what I look like in my peers' eyes. I started comparing myself to others and if I assume that I did not exceed to their expectations of me, I'd get disappointed. I'd go down that road where I criticize myself for littlest things. Later, I recognized how I tend to compare myself to only those ones who I think that are better than me, it is no wonder I was beating myself up and it was an unhealthy form of comparison to start with. -
6.1 Parent Adolescent Conflict
I hosted the after-prom party at the shed under my old home. My mom firmly said that I'm not allowed to host. Yet, I convinced myself that the shed is a separated property which "should" give me the right to host as long as I'm willing to take the responsibility. My mom was dead asleep that night and when she found out, she got very pissed off. It is safe to say that I may be experiencing some form of egocentrism during that time as I couldn't understand my mom's point of view when she said no. -
7.2 Transition to College
I could hardly wait to graduate from high school, and I was excited for my college days to happen. The main manifestation of my excitement came from my desire for freedom. Yet, when I entered college, I was overwhelmed with high stimulation that the college lifestyle revolves around. I can relate to what the text described, "going from the oldest and most powerful group of students to the youngest and least powerful group of students" as that was how I exactly felt (Santrock, pg. 343). -
8.1- rite of passage
When I was going out of the country with my friends to Cancun, Mexico. That is when rites of passage truly impacted me. I saw and faced how locals survive in a third-world lifestyle. Locals begged us daily for money. I had to make all decisions that'd protect myself and who I am traveling with, make my budget last, and help me to party responsibly. Not just that traveling in Cancun opened my eyes, it is also the progress of planning and getting a passport to travel out of the country as well.
